A Unique Path to J-DHS

Evan Blust

Staff Writer

Imagine a person being kicked out of their own country because they are a different color. This happened to Jamesville-Dewitt High School sophomore Rachel Batizfalvi when she was just a baby. Batizfalvi’s Korean mother had a child with an Indian man. The father didn’t want the baby so he left Batizfalvi’s mother.

 

In Korea, having a mixed race baby either means that you’re shunned, or you have to get rid of the child. Batizfalvi’s mother didn’t want to get rid of her but she had no choice. With the baby she wouldn’t be able to get a job and support her because people wouldn’t hire her. So she then had to give Batizfalvi up for adoption.
 

To this day, Koreans still disapprove of mixed race babies. “Asian cultures tend to stick to their traditions,” said Batizfalvi. “They will slowly modernize, but they are a lot less progressive than (the U.S.).”

 

During the adoption process, Batizfalvi’s mother had to fill out a bunch of documents to make Batizfalvi legal for (a) U.S parent(s) to adopt. Batizfalvi’s mother gave all of her information, her background, and her story. From there Batizfalvi was taken to America and adopted.

 

Batizfalvi has mixed feelings about being adopted. “It's kinda disappointing, like I could have had a family, if I was accepted. I would have been able to live with my (birth) parents,” said Batizfalvi.

 

When Batizfalvi was younger, she noticed that she was different. The main thing that stuck out was the difference in skin tone between her and her parents. When she asked her mom about the differences, her mom told her that she was different and that she wasn’t her real mom. Batizfalvi was confused and curious so her mother told her everything about her adoption and her background.

 

When she found out she was adopted, she felt a lot of distance from her parents. She even questions whether she should even talk to them. Knowing she is adopted felt weird and it still does today.

 

Batizfalvi feels that if she had the chance to meet her mother, she would. She would like to know where she came from. She said that most people don’t know what not knowing your mom feels like because their mom is a constant presence. They know what it’s like to learn a lesson from their mom or what it feels like to get angry at their mom. Batizfalvi’s never experienced this.

 

Unfortunately. Batizfalvi can’t get in touch with her mom. When she was put up for adoption, there was an option for her mom to check a box that says she would like to meet Batizfalvi when she turns 18. She didn’t check the box so Batizfalvi said they probably wouldn’t give her her mom’s number. Batizfalvi doesn’t blame her.

 

Batizfalvi has been discriminated against in America because of her skin tone. She was in a department store/grocery store in a rural area. This was a predominately white place and one of the people in the store told her to leave because she was colored.

 

Knowing the reasons behind her adoption and what has been said to her in the past has also affected Batizfalvi’s outlook on other people. “I'm really accepting of everyone because of this, people of mixed races, all races, all genders, all sexualities, political views, anyone really, because I know what it feels like to be different, and I don't want anyone to feel that they’re different,” said Batizfalvi.